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Helping a Parent With Estate Planning? Read This First

When families reach out to our office, it is often rooted in care.

A daughter is concerned about her mother’s future.
A son wants to make sure his parent is protected.
A family recognizes that now is the right time to plan.

That concern is meaningful. And it matters deeply.

But there is one essential step many families do not expect.

Why the First Conversation Matters

Through many years of practice, we have learned something fundamental: the person who needs the estate plan must be the very first person we connect with.

Not because adult children do not care—but because estate planning is profoundly personal. It involves private decisions about health, finances, legacy, and independence. Those decisions belong to the individual whose life is being planned.

Before anyone meets with Attorney Elsa W. Smith, they begin with a brief assessment call with a member of our team. This call is not about legal advice. It is about compassion, clarity, and ensuring that the woman we serve feels heard, respected, and comfortable from the very beginning.

When that first conversation is filtered through someone else—even with the best intentions—the person at the center of the planning process can unintentionally lose something essential: her voice.

Estate Planning Is About Dignity and Autonomy

Estate planning is not simply a set of legal documents. It is an experience grounded in dignity, autonomy, and trust.

It provides space for a woman to:

  • Express her wishes in her own words

  • Ask questions openly and privately

  • Consider her options without pressure

  • Move forward at a pace that feels right for her

When someone else leads the conversation on her behalf, control can subtly shift away from where it belongs. True empowerment requires direct participation.

Every woman deserves to engage in estate planning firsthand—not secondhand, not interpreted, and not directed by others.

The Role of Adult Children: Support, Not Substitution

Adult children play an important and valuable role in this process. Encouragement, logistical help, and emotional support can make a meaningful difference.

But support looks like standing beside—not stepping in front.

Support may include:

  • Encouraging your parent to make the initial call herself

  • Helping her prepare questions in advance

  • Attending meetings at her invitation

  • Respecting her decisions, even when they differ from your expectations

When families approach planning in this way, the process becomes more collaborative, more respectful, and ultimately more effective.

Where Empowerment Begins

If you are encouraging a parent to plan, the most supportive step you can take is simple: invite her to begin the conversation herself.

If you are a woman ready to take that step, we welcome you to schedule a complimentary 15-minute assessment call with a member of our team.

At the Law Offices of Elsa W. Smith, LLC, we guide Maryland and Washington, D.C. residents through estate planning with care, clarity, and intention—always centered on the person whose life and legacy are being protected.

Because empowerment begins the moment she is heard.

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